Trauma happens to all of us. It’s all too often a part of life. It might be from an accident, an illness or an event. It might be something that happens just to you or it might be a collective event that many people experience. Most of the people I work with have actually experienced multiple traumas in their lives.
Does this sound familiar to you?
Regardless of how it shows up in your life, trauma can stick around in your body if it’s not been resolved. So, how do you know if you have unresolved trauma? Ask yourself the following questions…
Have I experienced trauma either recently or in the distant past? If yes, is it still affecting me and my life in some way?
Signs Of Unresolved Trauma
1- Intrusive thoughts
3 – Avoiding reminders of the event
4 – Memory loss
5 – Negative thoughts
6 – self-isolation
7 – Anger & irritability
8 – A reduced interest in your favorite activities
9 – Hypervigilance
10 – Insomnia
11 – Difficulty Concentrating
12 – Flashbacks
13 – Avoiding People, places & things related to the event
14 – Blaming others
15 – Difficulty feeling positive emotions
16 – An exaggerated startle response
17 – Risky behaviors
How many of these signs can you claim right now?
This list is not exhaustive and you may have one or many of these signs. Your trauma will be unique to you. This means that the your signs of unresolved trauma will be unique as well.
They can be so easy to explain away as not really being a problem.
The thing is any of these signs can be explained away by so much of your day to day life. What you might want to ask yourself is this…Are these behaviors ruling your life? Did they only begin after a traumatic event? Have they increased with time?
If you can answer yes, then you might want to consider that there is unresolved trauma in your life.
Your body is full of memories!
It’s not just your brain that holds the memories of your past. Your body has been busy recording the events of your life since the day that you were born. Some people would even say that recording of events goes back even further to your mother & beyond.
For the sake of this article, we’re going to just deal with the events that you have experienced since you were born.
Have you ever heard the saying…’The issues are in the tissues’ ? There’s so much truth to this saying because those memories of your past events are stored in the tissues all over your body.
That trauma that you experienced years ago was stored, just as the happy times were stored as well.
Your body really wants to be heard!
Your body remembers everything even if you don’t consciously remember. That unresolved trauma from your past is just waiting to be heard and resolved.
This is how I explain it to my clients.
Unresolved trauma will ‘knock’ in some form or fashion as a reminder that it still needs to be dealt with. That ‘knocking’ might look like any of those signs of unresolved trauma that I mentioned above.
If you ignore the initial ‘knocking’, your body will decide to ‘knock’ a bit louder. Then, the next thing that you might notice is that you now have multiple signs of trauma showing up in your life. It often will just get worse the longer that your ignore the issue. This is your body’s way of getting your attention.
If you continue to ignore the increasing signs of unresolved trauma, your body will just ‘knock’ louder and louder until you have no choice but to listen. It might show up as a bodily symptom that you can’t explain. It could also be emotional pain that you can’t resolve. Often, when you reach this point, it means that you’re no longer able to function normally anymore.
Symptoms vs. Root Cause
Once you reach this point, you might decide to start to investigate what’s going on.
You’ll start to seek treatment for the symptoms before you go for the root cause of unresolved trauma. This means you’ll speak with your doctor about unexpected anxiety, not sleeping well or those depression symptoms that you’re experiencing.
Treating the symptoms will give you some temporary relief but it won’t solve the real issue which is the root cause of unresolved trauma.
If you want lasting relief, then you’ll need to stop explaining away all of those signs of unresolved trauma that are showing up in your life.
This is usually when I see my clients. They’ve tried to deal with the individual symptoms. They’ve spoken to multiple doctors and can’t seem to get the relief that they need. Nothing seems to work. Then, they decide to try things that seem a little bit different. That’s when they finally reach out to me.
I help you to listen deeply to what your body is trying so hard to tell you. It wants to be heard so that it can finally resolve that trauma from the past. Your body is ready to talk and I provide the support that you need so that you can be empowered to listen, resolve the trauma and make the changes that you need in your life.
When you finally resolve past trauma, transformation happens. Life becomes easier when you’re not stuck in the past. You can move forward again.
Are you ready for your own transformation?
You don’t have to go through this alone! Reach out to someone. Stop explaining away all of those signs. Whether by working with me or with someone else, get help so that you get the support that you deserve.
I know that often just reaching out is the hardest step, and it takes courage. If you’re ready for that help, then click here to set up your free chat. Let’s talk about how together we can start to resolve your past trauma so that you can get back to living your best life again.
And remember, it’s never too late to live healthier and happier!
Becky is a Yoga Therapist & has been teaching yoga since 2006. She loves to match people with a yoga practice that helps them to feel better every day & believes that there is a yoga practice for everyone. Click here to sign up for her mailing list & get all of the important news & tips first!