Finding and embracing our authentic self is a continuous journey that often requires deep introspection and self-reflection. It goes beyond the roles we play or the labels we adopt in our day-to-day lives. Discovering our authentic self means peeling back the layers of societal expectations, biases, and external influences to uncover the essence of who we truly are at our core. It is about acknowledging and accepting all parts of ourselves, including the parts that may be difficult or uncomfortable. By embracing our authentic self, we can live a more fulfilling and meaningful life, fully embracing our uniqueness and allowing it to shine brightly in the world.
Who am I?
This is something that I ask myself a lot. From the outside, I’ve changed a lot over the years. When my kids were at home, then I was a full-time mom, taxi driver, cook, maid and CEO of the house. Now, I’m an author, business owner, yoga teacher & yoga therapist.
These all describe the things that I do, but really, who am I on the inside? That hasn’t really changed so much. Instead, the inside ‘me’ is just being uncovered more as I get older.
Life changes provide a perfect time to get to know yourself again!
As my kids got closer to leaving home, I started asking myself the ‘who am I?’ question more frequently. I could see the life roles that I had been playing for over 15 years were going to change soon. The roles that I played on a daily basis didn’t need to be the same. The ‘who am I’ on the outside was changing fast and others could see it as much as I could.
The inner ‘who am I?’ didn’t keep up with the changes that happened on the outside. It’s taken me longer to figure that part out. In fact, I’m still uncovering that inner authentic self that has been hidden behind the outer roles that I played as a full-time mom.
This inner uncovering of my authentic self will probably not be done anytime soon either. It’s more of a lifelong process as I continue to check in with my own inner self and learn new nuggets of wisdom about who I am in my core.
This process is not always easy.
Sometimes, I’m acknowledging and accepting a part of myself that I have resisted for many years. Not all parts of ourselves are sunny and happy. For most of us, there is also a part of ourselves that is jealous, angry or irritated as well. It’s the uncovering of those parts of ourselves that can be challenging.
For example, I don’t like to admit when I’m jealous of someone else. So, I used to get mad at myself when those feelings would arise. This was me punishing myself for a normal emotion. Just because I felt jealousy did not make me a bad person. Denying that this part of myself existed only made that part want to be heard even more.
My authentic self is made up of so many parts. It’s all of those parts that make me who I am. In order to be authentic both with myself and with those around me, then I have to accept that all of these parts make up the whole.
To deny one of these parts that I might not like, is to deny my authentic self.
I’ve tried denying that parts of myself exist in the past. It never works out because I’m trying to make myself into something that I’m not. I try to fit in with others by copying them or by ignoring my own hopes, dreams, and emotions. It always ends up not working out. I can only maintain this facade for so long and then my authentic self demands to be both heard and seen.
How does it feel to let your authentic self out into the world?
Well for me, it feels inspiring, exciting, scary and a relief all at once.
I can be ‘me’ so much better than I can be anybody else. I don’t have to worry if I’m doing it right. I can just be and that is so refreshing.
The world is made up of billions of people. However, there is only one of each of us. Allow that one unique person that you are to be completely seen in the world. Don’t hold back and don’t try to fake it with others.
As you move through life, continue to uncover those layers that make up who you are. Show others your unique, authentic self. Feel the freedom of not trying to be someone else and know that you are perfectly imperfect just as you are without even trying!
If you’ve spent you’re entire life trying to fit in and hiding your authentic self, the now is the time to change this habit. It’s going to take time, but you can live more authentically. You’ll be so happy to reconnect to ‘you’ in a deeper way!
If you need support for this process, then set up a free chat with me. Let’s talk about how connecting to your body can help you reconnect to your authentic self again.
Finding and embracing our authentic self is a transformative journey that allows us to live a more meaningful life. It requires introspection, self-reflection, and the courage to peel back the layers of societal expectations, biases, and external influences. By acknowledging and accepting all parts of ourselves, even the difficult ones, we can step into our unique essence and let it shine brightly in the world. Embracing our authentic self is liberating, inspiring, and a true relief. It’s about being unapologetically who we are, knowing that we are perfectly imperfect. So let’s continue to uncover the layers, show the world our authentic self, and reconnect with our true essence.
Becky is a Yoga Therapist & has been teaching yoga since 2006. She loves to match people with a yoga practice that helps them to feel better every day & believes that there is a yoga practice for everyone. Click here to sign up for her mailing list & get all of the important news & tips first!