Have you ever had someone else try to change you? Maybe it was a small habit that other person wanted you to change or maybe they thought that they could shift your personality. Chances are that it didn’t work. This would be mostly because change has to come from within you and not from a force outside of you. To create lasting and meaningful change, it must be something that you yourself desire and actively pursue.
There is no quick fix!
Often, I work with people who just want that quick pill to make everything better in their life. I’m sorry to say that those pills really don’t exist. There might be a pill that takes away a symptom such as pain or anxiety, but for the change to be lasting, you have to do something different in your life.
The first step towards change is figuring out what that something different is in your life.
Beginning with awareness of yourself, your situation, and your current life, you can start to notice what is happening right now. Only then can you move forward. You must accept current circumstances before the next step can be taken.
This acceptance must come from you. If someone else is telling you that something is wrong in your life, then chances are you won’t hear what they have to say. You have to admit that there is an issue before you can begin to change the issue. Change starts within you and not outside of you.
I deal with this too.
I see this a lot in my life whether it’s in my practice or in my family.
Speaking from personal experience, I’ve tried to get someone to change a habit. It just doesn’t work if they don’t want to make the change. I’ve beaten my head against that wall one to many times. Eventually, I’ve learned that the change needs to come from within first. As I’ve said before, I can be a slow learner at times and I’ve been hit with this lesson enough that I can say it with confidence.
Lasting and meaningful change comes from within.
This is the type of change that I help women accomplish. It’s empowering to know that you have this ability within you. Your inner guidance is ready to help you make changes in your life. You just have to be ready to listen to the messages coming from within. If you’re not satisfied with your current life, if you know that you need to make a change, then start by looking inward for the change.
What does this look like?
Well, it’ll look a bit different for everyone, but it starts with your awareness of the present moment. It’s your own awareness that matters in this instance and not that of the people around you. Taking advice from other people can be a valuable way to decide your options. However, it’ll be so much more effective if you use your own inner guidance to make the final decision around changes in your life.
Why don’t we listen to our inner wisdom?
There are many reasons why we don’t listen to our own guidance. One is that we’re usually out of practice. We’re so disconnected from our own bodies and the knowledge that they hold around our lives, that we don’t know where to start. Another reason is that we don’t trust our own guidance. Maybe you tried to follow your own guidance once before & it didn’t work out as you wanted. So, the next time your inner guidance is talking, you don’t believe it.
With practice learning to listen to your own inner wisdom leads to the most lasting and meaningful change in our lives. It’ll empower you to live a life that matches up with who you truly are. Without listening inward, your change just isn’t going to stick. You’ll be back to those old habits that just aren’t working for you anymore. You might still want to create shifts in your life but you won’t know how to get out of those habits.
I know it’s not easy to do this if you’ve never done it. It took me years to get really good with it. If you’d like to learn how to listen inward first, then reach out to me. Set up a free chat and let’s discuss what you want to shift and how I can support you in this process.
Lasting and meaningful change is amazing! Every time that I work with someone, they are empowered to find their own. It’s always eye opening that it doesn’t have to be hard, but that it does have to start within you.
So, if you can remember that simple guideline, the shift has to start from within yourself, then you too can create the life that you seek.
And remember, it’s never too late to live healthier & happier!
Becky is a Yoga Therapist & has been teaching yoga since 2006. She loves to match people with a yoga practice that helps them to feel better every day & believes that there is a yoga practice for everyone. Click here to sign up for her mailing list & get all of the important news & tips first!