Connect To Yourself After Big Life Changes

While cleaning up my home office the other day, I ran across something that I wrote about 7 years ago.  It struck me as interesting because I was going through the first part of my yoga therapy training when I wrote it and this was a period of a lot of introspection for me.  You see, I was exploring and growing into a new version of me. I was learning how to connect to yourself again.

At the time when I wrote this journal entry, one child had moved out & the other one would soon do the same thing.  What I wrote at this time of change was that I felt as if I was a flower waking up from a long winter.  It was clear that I was in the middle of trying to figure out who I was at that moment in time.

You’re not the same person forever.

Who you are at any given moment changes depending on the small and big circumstances in your life.  For me at that time, I was almost an empty nester.  I knew that a lot of change was coming shortly for me.  I’d spent so much time on raising my kids that I wasn’t sure who I was anymore.  Thus, I had the image of waking up from a long winter to discover ME again.

Yes, there are some parts of you that don’t really change.  Your core beliefs will likely stick with you throughout your entire life.  However, those little bits of life that make up your current moment will be forever changing.  Your kids will move out (hopefully), you might move, change jobs or make some other large change in your life.

All of these changes in your life can change your inner truth as well.  For me, when I wrote this, I was a mom first and foremost.  That job was rapidly changing as my kids grew closer to adulthood.  When the second one left, did I really need to be full-time mom anymore?  Or, did I need to do a little digging to discover the me that had been waiting for years while I raised my kids? Those were the questions that I asked myself at the time.

Obviously, my full-time mom job was nearing an end.  So, it didn’t make sense to stay in that mode.  Seven years ago, I started a process of serious soul searching to discover who I was in that moment in time.  My truth was in the midst of changing.  I knew it & I did the best I could to understand it and change with it.

I can look back now and see how lucky I really was. I was in the midst of my yoga therapy training and I was learning to help other people connect to their bodies. When you do this, you start to connect to yourself in a different way. I was able to use that training on myself as well and so much growth happened because of this!

I know that a couple of years from now, my truth will have altered again.  It might be time to make more changes in my life so that I can match up to my truth again. As life continues to happen, you have to continue to adjust with it and this means returning to that connection to self over and over as often as needed.

Connect to yourself in order to live in alignment with your own truth.

Living in alignment with my truth makes my life so much better.  I’m not fighting to stay in a place that doesn’t fit me anymore.  Instead, I’m living in a way that supports me and creates the life that works for me right now.

Who am I right now in this moment? 

I’ve learned to ask myself this question more and more.  In some moments, I’m still mom and proud of it.  There are times when my kids still need me and I’m happy to help them whenever I can. However outside of those moments, I’m not that same person anymore.  That role doesn’t quite fit this empty nester as well.  I’ve moved into more of a mom/mentor role & I find that I’m enjoying that transition.  My kids get to be in charge of their lives and I get to take charge of my own in a way that has been on the back-burner for a very long time.

Who am I right now  in this very moment? 

It changes a bit as I live my life and it will for you as well. Whether your going through a major life transition such as when your kids finally leave home or whether you’re resolving past trauma. When you connect to yourself, you get to reaffirm who you are in the moment and you get to make the changes that will help you better align to this version of you.

For me, as I ask myself that question, I might be a student, a mom, a teacher, a yoga therapist, a hiker, a mentor, etc.  I’m all of those things and more, but in any given moment, I’m me.  I’m getting more and more comfortable with this version of me and I invite you to ask yourself this same question. 

Who are YOU right now in this very moment? 

Check in with your body.  It will definitely have an opinion about that question if you’re willing to listen to it. Notice what it has to tell you and get to know this current version of you

I work with clients who are going through this process all of the time. Some of my clients are going through a big life transition, others are resolving their past traumas, still others are just learning to connect to self for the first time. If you’d like to chat about how Yoga Therapy can help you connect to yourself, schedule a free chat with me.

And remember, it’s never too late to live healthier or happier!

Becky is a Yoga Therapist & has been teaching yoga since 2006. She loves to match people with a yoga practice that helps them to feel better every day & believes that there is a yoga practice for everyone. Click here to sign up for her mailing list & get all of the important news & tips first!