Last week was harder for me for some reason. I didn’t feel well for most of the week for one reason or another.  I felt like I was getting sick the first part of the week and then my spring allergies kicked into high gear the second part of the week.  Then, I spent this last Sunday sneezing all day long.  I tried to spend a few minutes outside because I desperately craved the sun and that made the sneezing so much worse. So, I went back inside. I missed out on the energy and emotional boost that the sun’s rays would have given to me. No wonder my emotional cup was feeling a bit drained and I was having a difficult time maintaining my emotional balance when I interacted with other people. Taking care of yourself is essential to having the emotional balance to deal with other people. You have to fill your own emotional cup first!

It’s no wonder that this morning when I read something about filling up my own emotional cup right now, that my inner me said ‘yes, that’s what I need right now’.  I know that I’m not alone in this.  I often hear my clients talk about feeling drained in one way or another.

So, let’s spend a few minutes on that topic.

When life gets to be too much, you don’t have to just suffer through it. There are ways to fill your own emotional cup so that you can handle life’s challenges even better. This is what I was needing after feeling tired and or sick much of the past week. So, I came up with this list of 5 ways to easily fill up my emotional cup and I thought that I’d share them with you.

Women laughing on the beach.

1 – Laugh More

I love watching a good comedy show or movie.  I just feel better after laughing.  It gets energy flowing through my body.  It’s feels like the I’ve released good feelings that were already in my body but being held behind a curtain.  Those good feelings last for awhile & definitely perk me up.

I also try to laugh at myself whenever I can.  I do some really silly things some times.  I find that when I can laugh at those silly things, then I’m not taking myself so seriously.  I’m able to correct mistakes and not beat myself up over those oops moments.

I’ve often heard we can either laugh or cry over something that’s not going the way we wanted. I usually choose to laugh my way through life’s difficulties. It usually helps me to step back and take a different look at the situation and then I can make better decisions.

2 – Connect With Others

We are more isolated than we used to be.  Many of us work from home more and keep to ourselves.  So, yes we do need to make more of an effort in order to connect more with other people. 

3 women holding hands in a circle and smiling at one another.

This might mean you actually do a phone/video call with someone instead of texting them. Hearing someone’s voice or seeing there face as you interact changes the level of communication. We weren’t meant to simply type out our thoughts all day long. Hearing and/or seeing someone deepens the connection to them. Stop texting and actually ‘talk’ with someone.

Connections might also come through a local group that you join. It could be a gym, club or other activity. Find people with similar interests and actually meet up with them after a day of work at home. It’ll lift your spirits to interact with others.

3 – Celebrate Success

In the past, I only celebrated the big wins.  Since the bigger wins don’t tend to happen as frequently, that means I didn’t get to celebrate very often.

A few years ago, I decided to change that.  Now, I celebrate those small wins as well.  The dinner came out really well?  I celebrate by savoring each and every bite.  I got a new client?  Of course, I’m doing an inner happy dance.  I wrote my blog post on time & successfully put it up for everyone to read?  You bet I check that one off & congratulate myself.

When you take the time to celebrate the small wins, it helps to motivate you to keep going.  It also helps you to accept those feelings of accomplishment as your own and keeps your spirits up as well. Celebrating the small wins fills up my emotional cup and keeps me moving forward with the next task. I look forward to checking something else off of my list and congratulating myself for getting that done as well.

4 – Do Things That You Love

This is a must for me!  I always try to fit in something that I love each and every day.  It might be a hike in the woods, some quiet time reading just for fun, time in the garden or time with friends.

Why do I do this?  Because life doesn’t have to be all work & no play.  We all need a break from work in order to be more productive.  Step away from your job whether it’s at an office or at home.  Take a breath.  Do something different.  Let your mind rest.  Engage yourself in that hobby, sport or book.  Or, just lay outside and watch the clouds go by. 

It doesn’t really matter what it is.  Find something that lights you up and that you can’t wait to do and then do it. Have fun and watch your energy grow and your spirit soar.

A mom hugging her child and they are both laughing.

5 – Love & Affection

Love and affection can take many different forms.  It could be as simple as petting your dog or cat.  Dogs are always up for a belly rub.  They love it & you get the feel good endorphins too!  If you’re a cat owner, then you’ll have to ask your cat for permission first.  They aren’t always excited about the love & affection.  (Cat owners know what I mean.)

This could also be a foot massage that you give to yourself after doing all of your household chores.  Hugs with your kids and spouse are also great, and don’t forget that hugging yourself counts as well.  Bring a little love and affection back into your life & watch your emotional cup fill to the top again.

Try these out any time that you need a lift in you mood!

All of these tips are also really helpful during stress filled times of your life.  Whenever your emotional cup is feeling a bit empty, it’s time to spend a little time on yourself. Take time to laugh, connect with someone, or maybe even do a hobby that you love. Any of those choices will help you to resettle your emotions and prepare you to face the next challenge. There will always be those times when the shifts and changes in your life create extra stress. Use these same tips to help you navigate those challenging times whenever you need them and of course get support from a professional if you need it. I’m here to help if these tips aren’t working for you. Let’s talk about what might help you fill up your emotional cup too!

Becky is a Yoga Therapist & has been teaching yoga since 2006. She loves to match people with a yoga practice that helps them to feel better every day & believes that there is a yoga practice for everyone. Click here to sign up for her mailing list & get all of the important news & tips first!


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